Why Breaking Up Could Be The Best Thing For You

Getting dumped is one of the worst things that we endure in life, short of death. Some think it’s easier to learn to live with the loss of a loved one than with breaking up.

When this happens, we sometimes blame ourselves and a virus of self-criticism grows. We begin to experience shame as a result of this negative thinking. The disgrace is such that we don’t even want to talk about it. Sadly, shame is an emotion we don’t always cope with.

Guilt and regret are unpleasant feelings which hold us captive in a pit of torment. They draw us into a life of silence and passivity, luring us into lying about and disguising our genuine concerns. When we are rejected in any setting, let alone a relationship, our self-esteem takes a serious blow. If we are already lacking in that area, we can have a difficult time separating from our partner.

Love is blind.

The truth is, love is often blind. We put our faith in others so quickly and so completely that we may essentially set ourselves up for the worst fall of our life. What is the reason behind this? Is it because we are compelled by our human nature to trust others? Are we really happier when we have someone to count on?

It is our instinct to love and be loved. The term “love” both blinds and delights us. When it goes bad, it has a negative impact on us. So, why do we set ourselves up for failure? Without realizing it, are we merely gambling in a game of chance? The basic issue is that no one wants to break up. Accepting it is not in our nature. How many times have you been dumped and felt as if your life had come to a halt? You believed nothing would ever be the same after that.

You weren’t wrong in that regard. It’s much like any other adjustment we experience. Things will not always be the same. However, your life hasn’t really come to an end. Yes, your relationship with someone has ended and it was unexpected. We have to cope with it and make the conscious decision to move on.

Start something new.

Here’s the key: Consider it the start of a new life; something fresh which is uplifting and beneficial. Take an honest look at things and welcome the change. Forget being afraid. Breaking up is simply another chapter in your story. Imagine how boring your book would be if there were no chapters. You may now start the next chapter and, believe me, there will be a lot of them. Realize that if you spend the rest of your life asking why, you’ll waste even more of your valuable time worrying and avoiding a potentially new, exciting and different path.

Even the most well-adjusted and successful people end relationships. A choice has been made and you, as an intelligent individual, must now turn the page. Getting caught in a loop of shame and loss is what makes our psychologists wealthy.

Endings are inevitable.

Bumps in life are guaranteed to happen. Over and over again, we trip and fall. The trick is to practice pulling yourself up and brushing off the old muck. Simply put, if you’re going to have meaningful relationships, understand that sometimes we have to get out of them. It’s a fact of life.

We must remember that when we are at our lowest point and feeling useless, we experience our own humanity. It is human to have doubt, but we are strong enough to overcome our doubts. Look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are special and that your objective to be happy is a good thing.

To achieve that aim, I encourage you to take the risk. Allow yourself to feel that you are deserving of another relationship.

After all, what is life without a little danger and adventure?